In the previous segments, i told you about how the “old” part of men’s and women’s brains and hormones can affect how they solve problems and react to relationships differently. This goes way back to our ancestors millions of years ago. It’s no mystery that women’s hormones progestrone and estrogen tend to produce stronger emotional responses, while the testosterone in men tends to affect the aggessive and sexual response. Now, when it comes to memory, men can generally recall events using strategies that rely on reconstructing the experience in terms of tasks, activities or elements that took place. So, experiences that are associated with mental or physical competition or activities are also recalled easier for men. Generally speaking, women are usually able to remember things that have strong emotional components. Women also have a higher alarm response to danger than men. Some may call it “intuition.” so, with our focus on language and emotions, many times, men don’t understand why women always want to talk and talk and talk. On the other hand in many therapeutic sessions, i women tell me that they feel like they aren’t being listened to by guys. So, here’s some tips for both sexes to help understand eachother better: girls it may be important for you to understand that, generally speaking, men communicate to share information, not to create relationships. That’s why a conversation with a man might not always feel as satisfying as a conversation with a girlfriend. So the point is, when you’re trying to tell your man something, if you are really verbal, try to talk a bit less because many men are bottom line oriented and will be better listeners if you are more direct in your communication and get to the point quicker.

If you ask your man a question, realize that men are problem solvers and may try to jump in to help you resolve a problem, even though you know that all you are doing is letting off steam. Now for guys, it’s important for you to realize that, generally speaking, women communicate to establish relationships, so they’ll probably be more personal in what they talk about. Even if it feels difficult, it is important to listen to your lady when she gets chatty. It may also help in your relationship and communication with her if you try to move beyond short sentences or two word answers and make longer responses. This also means when you are texting or e-mailing. Women classically write much longer questions and responses to men. So guys, try to text back with more than…yes, no or that’s good. In the next clip, i’m going to help you understand how men and women’s speech patterns are different so you can communicate better.

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